Sunday, December 19, 2010

My Fair Lady

As children we are taught very little about love. In fact most of what I know from love comes from Disney movies. Poor distraught girl meets handsome prince in an unlikely fashion, they fall in love and marry. Unlikely love. The kind of love that is only accepted in the fairy tale world. So what happens when this type of love occurs in the real world. It either ends in love or heartache. In this day in age, especially in the Chabad world more and more unlikely matches are happening. Many of my friends have married men they love rather then men their families picked for them because of the fact that they look good on paper. Many of my friends have married the men who look good on paper suggested by their family. Both of these situations have produced divorce and loving marriages. So it is not so much about the success rate. Charles and Diana were and unlikely match and it ended in heartache. William and Kate are an unlikely match and all sources say it will end in love. No one can predict the outcome of life or love. And no one can predetermine who they love or why they love them it just happens.
Many of my friends are scared and afraid of love. They are products of parents who were put together by a matchmaker and well not because of love. They looked good together on paper or both came from the same background. Yes that's right traditionally Gehzee married Gehzee and the rest were left to fend for themselves. Now for the first time in the history of the blog I am not going to criticize the need to marry in ones kind. I think it is a great idea to marry a first cousin and have children with 11 toes. In fact the more toes the better thats what I always say. This is crazy. Who the hell marries their own just to keep the blood all the same. Now I am going to be brutally honest and expose the fact that my great grandparents were indeed related before marriage...but they came from the shtetl. WE NO LONGER LIVE IN THE SHTETL. We no longer live in a place where love doesn't exist. We must teach our children to love. And love doesn't happen on paper and love isn't about who your parents are and love isn't about who died in Siberia and love is most certainly not about who someone else chooses for you.
In this day in age mixed marriages are happening left and right. Now let me make this clear that I am not talking about the same type of mixed marriages we see in the secular world. I am talking about the union between Gehzee and non Gehzee. IT IS HAPPENING!!! The Gehzees want new blood. Well their children want new blood and to have children without 11 toes, but the parents are still struggling. The result of these unions is often a Pygmalion. Where the less elite goes through training to be more elite. In the case of Chabad...the non Gehzee becomes Gehzee. They are trained how to be socially awkward, push bugaboo strollers, and steal babies. Its My Fair Lady, Chabad style.

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